Why Do I Keep Feeling Like an Option Instead of a Priority? 3 Journal Prompts for Self-Worth and Dating Anxiety
Sometimes it’s easier to vent to strangers on the internet than the people closest to us.
Not because strangers know us better…
but because they don’t always dismiss your feelings with:
“just move on”
“there’s other people out there”
“you’re doing too much”
A lot of people quietly carry emotional exhaustion from dating.
Especially when they genuinely care about someone who keeps giving inconsistent energy.
Because after a while, it stops feeling like excitement…
and starts feeling like emotional survival.
That’s part of why we started going live on TikTok every Monday-Friday at 7PM EST.
We wanted to create a space where people could say the things they usually keep trapped in their head.
Recently, someone commented:
“I really like this girl and she’s just playing in my face. I don’t know. I’m just tired of being an option.”
And honestly?
A lot of people know this feeling.
Because nothing drains your confidence faster than constantly feeling emotionally uncertain with someone you genuinely want.
One day they’re interested.
The next day they’re distant.
One moment you feel chosen…
the next moment you feel easily replaceable.
And after a while, your brain starts spiraling:
“Why am I never enough for someone to choose fully?”
“Why do I keep ending up in situations like this?”
“Am I asking for too much?”
“Why do I keep settling for inconsistency?”
But sometimes the problem isn’t that you’re hard to love.
Sometimes the problem is that you keep trying to build certainty with people who benefit from keeping things unclear.
And when you care deeply, it becomes easy to confuse:
attention with effort
chemistry with consistency
potential with reality
So here are 3 journal prompts I’d ask someone in this situation:
1. What keeps me emotionally attached to people who make me feel uncertain instead of secure?
2. Have I been prioritizing being chosen…
more than asking whether this situation actually aligns with the kind of love I want?
3. What would change in my dating life if I stopped viewing consistency, communication, and reassurance as “asking for too much”?
Because sometimes the hardest part about feeling like an option…
is realizing how long you’ve been abandoning your own standards just to avoid losing someone.
Next time your brain is spiraling, open Plurawl...vent...and it will help you make sense of your thoughts.
The w in is silent, but you don't have to be.
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